The married boys are considered superior to the unmarried ones and are considered more responsible, both by Yerava society and the parents. In case of both Paniya and Panjiri Yeravas, the marriage is permissible only outside the sub-group. And also Paniya Yeravas and Panjiri Yeravas do not intermarry. It is strictly not allowed.
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The four types of marriages that take place among Yeravas are explained here.
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The marriage by arrangement |
When a boy attains thc age of marriage, his parents approach a friend or a relative to look for a bride. Once the contact person finds a bride, he informs the parents. Then the parents go to the prospective bride's house, they take some betel leaves and arecanut. If they accept the proposal the boy is sent to girl's house to see the girl. If he too agrees, the parents of both the parties negotiate the marriage and decide the date of marriage. The Panjiri Yeravas prefer their ma:mE 'maternal uncle' to search the bride. To see the prospective bride,they go along with their kañela:i and ammakare. At the prospective bride's residence too the kañela:i and ammakare of their side participate in the discussions. |
One month before thc marriage day, the people of groom's side. except the groom, go to the home of the bride. The younger sister, or the elder sister, or the wife of the elder brother of the groom ties a coin to the saree of the bride proposed. This is a betrothal ceremony. In Panjiri Yeravas, the elder or younger sister of the groom would insert a silver ring to the girl's finger to mark the betrothal. There will be a feast on this day. Once the engagement has taken place, further negotiations of the proposed bride's people with any groom other than the one to whom she is engaged is strictly prohibited. |
After one month of this ceremony, in order to develop good rapport with the girl, the boy has to take three times one pare (10 seer) paddy, one pai betel leaves and arecanuts to her house. Also, he should carry a big bundle of firewood from the forest to her house. After keeping these materials in her house, he cleans himself and bows to her parents. The bride feeds him. He sleeps out side with her brothers or men in her house and returns the next day. It seems, that this aspect, attached to the marriage, seeks proof of the economic viability of the groom and his physical strength. But in Panjiri Yeravas, the boy has to take one pare (10 seer) paddy, salt, chilly and other things required for one girl to eat and goes once in a week to her house until he marries her. After the engagement she is considered to be his wife and he has to look after her. And one week before the marriage day he has to take one bai paddy and three rupees to the parents of the girl. Then the marriage day is fixed. |
The groom's side has to give a bride price of Rs. 250-300 to the parents of the bride. When asked for the reason for paying bride price it is stated that as the parents of bride are loosing an earning member, compensation is to be given in some manner. |
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