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1.16.1 Second Marriage
Re-marriage after the divorce or death of his/her life partner depends on individual discretion, Both the widows can remarry according to their choice. Generally, the second marriages take place without much celebration and bride price, but adhering strictly to the clan accordance.
1.17. Ceremonies
1.17.1 Marriage
Marriage among Uralis has two phases. The first phase consists of the preliminary talk pertaining to marriage between the two families which includes the exchange of bride price and the second phase is the real marriage.
Initially an informal confirmation from the bride’s parents indicating their willingness of giving their daughter in marriage to a particular boy is expected. This is obtained by the mediators sent by the bridegroom’s parents. After agreeing on a date/day, the bridegroom’s parents along with their relatives and a `ja:tti’ (an officiating priest) visit the bride’s village. Officiating priests know as `ja:tti’ play an important role in marriage. No marriage can take place without a `ja:tti’. Among the 12 clan names listed earlier, the `ja:ttis’ are from two clans, namely, `sambarä and `pe:radavä.
At the bride’s house, her parents along with their relatives, the village head man `gotta:i’ or ` gvüe’ and the `ja:tti’ will be waiting for the arrival of the groom’s party.
Bridegroom’s messengers carry betel leaves, coconut, turmeric and incense sticks with an addition of wooden log called as `kokke tai’ which is the symbolic representation of the bridegroom. On arrival at the bride’s house, the visitors are given considerable importance and are asked to sit on a mat spread on the floor. After a prolonged talk about various matters including words in praise of both the bridegroom and the bride, the `ja:tti’ accompanied with the bridegroom’s party hands over the `kokke tai’ to the `ja:tti’ of the bride and the latter keeps the `kokke tai’ in a safe place. Till the formal marriage is over, the `kokke tai’ is kept in bride’s house. Its presence is considered equivalent to the presence of the bridegroom and as long as the `kokke tai’ is in the bride’s residence, no other person has any right over the bride. After the `kokke tai’ is accepted by the bride’s `ja:tti’, `ja:tti’ of the bridegroom hands over Rs.125.25 (Rupees One hundred and twentyfive and paise twentyfive) to the former as a bride price. In the past, the bride price used to be given in the form of materials such as rice, plantain, clothes and very little money. But now a days only money is given. At this stage the head man `gotta:i’ also joins both the ja:ttis and along with the parents and relatives of both the bridegroom and the bride, the day for the marriage is fixed. A very good feast of chicken and mutton is served to the bridegroom’s people and the visitors return to their village on the same day if the distance is less or start on the next day after a comfortable stay.






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